Fixing your home
By Sharon Arnolda
For those of you looking for which vase goes with a plush blue fluffy blanket, you're in for a treat, wait for it! One of the biggest lessons we learned during the pandemic was that we need to fix our home environments. Most of us were not really expecting to be locked in our homes for such a period of time, we let a lot of things slide; from piles of dirty laundry to piles of arguments that were avoided with the convenient excuse of ‘I’m going to be at work till late’. One thing most of us had in common was the pile of un-done ‘chores’ we kept pushing aside. Here's how you decorate your home in a way that actually makes the four walls that are painted in the perfect shade of whatever colour you picked feel like home.
Here's what we usually do when ‘home’ doesn't feel like home.
Pay someone to fix it; we cannot do everything now. We can get professional help to get those tasks completed. So this tends to be the go-to option when it comes to ‘fixing your home.’ From breaking walls to decorating the entire place with everything that fancies you, home decorating has become a ‘thing’ now, with an entire profession and marketing system around it. Everyone is obviously, bothered about how ‘happy’ their walls are supposed to make them or how aesthetic a vase looks on the brand new coffee table that’s facing the ideal angle to keep the cash flowing.
Don't get me wrong; I'm sure there’s something to all of this. I have been there myself, sponge in hand painting the walls hoping to God that it would make my house feel like a ‘home’ or bring in ‘happiness’.
But here's the catch, before you get to interior decorating, you need to start - interior decorating. There's nothing a yellow wall can fix if the relationships with the people at home are broken. There is a lot of society that has gotten so caught up in what a home is supposed to look like that not a lot of people focus on what it is supposed to feel like.
‘Home is a feeling; not a place’ - it's more than a quote about a boy or girl. It’s pretty much what home should be; ideally a feeling of warmth and safety. You can’t create a feeling by applying a fresh coat over it; you change the environment till you feel it.
Here's what we should be doing;
Do you know the people you live with?
There is an alarming number of parents - children/ sibling relationships where people living in the same house go on to ignore each other, continuously fight, and continue living in a morbid situation.
A good way to avoid this is by sitting with these people and maybe trying to get to know them; again. We need to form relationships with our families that go beyond blood. A blood connection is biological and as time goes on, we all realise it takes more than that to continue living in a house with people.
Fix your relationships
The best way to make your house a home is to de-clutter. A good thing to de-clutter is bad blood. It's important to focus on the relationships among the people living in the house.
From helpers to the ‘loku mahattaya’ everybody going to bed and waking up in the space should ideally have a level of comfort and safety therein.
Please / thank you/ sorry
Magic words work a lot better than Jack’s magic beans, I would recommend being courteous.
Not all of us live alone, and even if we do unless we live in a jungle we have to be mindful of the people around us. There’s a lot to be mindful of here. From picking up after yourself, to making sure your midnight trip to the fridge will not wake up the whole household there are a lot of things that need to be done keeping in mind that other people live there too.
Be better every day
Do things around the house that will make the place look better; this part will eventually come anyway, when you truly interior decorate your home everything that needs to come into place externally just becomes the icing on the cake.
Before you get caught up in the next thing that will ‘make your house a home’ or the ‘next best happy colour’. It’s important to keep in mind that there may be things that are more important and in need of fixing in our homes, and until we fix those things all other things are redundant; just think about it?
Oh, and I have no idea what kind of vase goes with what kind of rug, But I hope you enjoyed your treat!